At some point, you may have come across the phrase “energy vampires.” What is an energy vampire? Does the Bible mention energy vampires?
When first hearing about an energy vampire, you may find yourself covering your neck in fear of being bitten. In reality, you have nothing to fear. Energy vampires aren’t vampires with fangs (usually anyways).
Instead, “energy vampires” are people who will literally suck the energy right out of you. You know the type–after a few hours around one of these so called “energy vampires” you feel depressed, drained, tired, cranky, and confused.
Some people can walk into a room and the sunshine will disappear. Flowers will wilt in their presence, and suddenly life seems so gray. These are the energy vampires.
What Is an Energy Vampire?
Again, the term energy vampire usually just refers to someone who sucks (hence the vampire part) the life, pizazz and energy straight from you. You can be in the most positive and happy mood of your life, but a few hours of hanging out with one of these people, and you are ready to scream.
Basically, it is just referring to “negative” people. Those cynics who think there is a catch to everything. Those who think everything is worthless, nothing will succeed, and everyone is set up for failure and doom. They hate life, they are usually bitter, depressed, angry, lonely, frustrated, and blame their problems on others.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Misery loves company?” It just simply means that miserable people want other people to be miserable so they can cry and whine about their problems together. This is the concept behind the dreaded “energy vampires.” It usually involves a person who is down on life. They are unhappy (it could be for multiple reasons).
Because they feel like they have been burned in life, they try to share their negative “energy” with others. Basically, they try to convince you why life sucks, and that it will always be bad. They are always the ones that see the glass as half empty instead of half full. They always say words like: Can’t, won’t, I doubt it, etc.
What Does the Bible Say About Negativity or “Energy Vampires?”
Of course, the term “energy vampires” isn’t mentioned in the Bible. However, it does talk a little about our attitudes and how we are to behave our in our life. One thing is clear: God LOVES a positive attitude!
In Numbers 13, Moses sent 12 men to spy out the land of Canaan. The men saw that the people of the land were much bigger than they were. When they returned, ten of them basically said, “No way, Moses. We can’t take these guys out. We are like grasshoppers to them. We’ll never pull it off!” It was a bad and negative report.
However, one of the men named Caleb said this: “Let us go up at once and occupy it, for we are well able to overcome it.”
The people who gave the negative report greatly distressed Moses and the congregation, but even worse–they disappointed God. For God was with them, and they didn’t believe in His power to help them win. Their negativity was punished, and God did not allow them to enter the land for several more years (until that generation died out). However, to Caleb and Joshua who were willing to go and believed, God allowed them to enter this land.
God loves a positive, upbeat attitude. Even in the New Testament, we are told of the 7 fruits of the spirit of God:
Do you see negativity, doubt, anger, or bitterness on that list? Of course not. God wants us to be positive, joyful, loving, good, kind, and have self control. Obviously we can’t be happy go lucky all the time. If we have a bad day, or lose a loved one, we will be sad. But the key is to never let yourself remain down since we have that rock-solid assurance of Jesus Christ. Pick yourself back up, and get energized and positive again. Let the joy in your heart overflow.
How to Deal with Energy Vampires or Negative People
If you know someone who is an “energy vampire” or pessimist, then you need to be nice and loving to that person. Try to get them out of their bad moods. However, if you can’t get them to change, and they refuse to live by the fruit of the spirit above, then it may be a good idea to distance yourself from this person. Try to hang out with more positive people.
The Bible suggests we choose our friends very carefully. If you walk with a wise person, you’ll become wise:
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
If you constantly surround yourself with negative or bitter people, that negativity will start to enter your mind. You’ll begin looking at things in a different light. After all, you can’t help but pick up traits of those you spend time with. That is why it is so important to choose your friends carefully. Take a look at who you hang with now, and this is what you’ll likely act like in a few months or years.
You can see this same principle at work in the story of Joshua. He was around Moses all the time, and after Moses passed away, Joshua took over and led Israel into the promised land. He had acquired very good leadership skills by observing and learning from Moses all those years. The same is true today. If we hang around negative, mean, or sinful people all the time, it is going to rub off on us. If we hang around godly, wise, loving people, that will rub off on us.
I am not saying we shouldn’t help people, or spend time with negative people at all. But we should take care to guard ourselves against their negativity. Sometimes, the only way to do this is by distancing yourself from these people.
Life is short. We are going to have enough hurt, and pain, and difficulties throughout our life. There is no need to live like that on a daily basis. Get high on God, and get high on life.
God gave us this one life to live. We need to make the most of it. We shouldn’t be negative, and bitter all day.
For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
2 Timothy 1:7
We should be upbeat and positive. God has great things in store for us. Be excited about Jesus. We serve a mighty King, who is King of Kings and Lord of Lords.
Have you trusted Christ as your savior? Are you living in obedience to Him? If you’ve never accepted Jesus Christ, the Bible says you can be forgiven of your sins by placing your faith in Christ, and believing that God raised Him from the dead. Jesus died so that you may live.